source list debian sarge

# /etc/apt/sources.list
# Este arquivo contém os endereços do repositórios Debian, para procura de pacotes para instalação via apt-get, quando fizer qualquer atualização no arquivo deverá ser executada o comando “apt-get update”
# Eventualmente alguns destes repositórios podem estar fora do ar. Se estiver recebendo mensagens de erro ao executar o comando “apt-get update” ou tentar instalar pacotes diversos, edite este arquivo, comentando (#) as linhas dos endereços dos repositórios que estiverem inoperante e descomentando outros.
#
# Em geral os mirrors do Debian são bastante confiáveis, mas problemas sempre acontecem, principalmente quando worms como o Blaster atacam servidores rodando aquele outro sistema operacional, prejudicando o tráfego na internet inteira, causando black-outs
# Se desejar usar todos os repositorios vc deve retirar (#) “comentario” do inicio da linha, o processo inverso também vale se não quiser usar um repositorio é só inserir (#), no inicio da linha
#
# Repositorios de pacotes Stable
# Os repositorios abaixo contém pacotes estáveis do Debian. Utilize sempre estes repositorios nas instalaçoes de programas em Servidores, exemplo, Apache, Squid e Samba por serem pacotes estáveis e confiáveis.
#
## Repositorio Projeto Debian-BR-CDD
deb http://cdd.debian-br.org/debian-br-cdd 1.0 main contrib
#
## Repositorio Projeto Debian Brasil
deb http://ftp.br.debian.org/debian sarge main contrib
#
## Repositorio Debian Stable
deb ftp://ftp.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
deb http://ftp.br.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.br.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.uk.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp2.de.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.cl.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.fr.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.it.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.is.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.es.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.hu.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.us.debian.org/debian stable main contrib non-free

# Stable/non-US
# Os repositorios abaixo contém pacotes do estáveis mas que não podem ser distribuídos nos EUA devido às leis ditadas naquele país. Se voce não mora nos EUA pode usa-los livremente.

#deb http://ftp.br.debian.org/debian-non-US stable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.uk.debian.org/debian-non-US stable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp2.de.debian.org/debian-non-US stable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.cl.debian.org/debian-non-US stable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.fr.debian.org/debian-non-US stable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.it.debian.org/debian-non-US stable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.is.debian.org/debian-non-US stable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.es.debian.org/debian-non-US stable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.hu.debian.org/debian-non-US stable/non-US main contrib non-free

# Unstable

# Estes pacotes fazem parte da versão final, mas ainda não estão estáveis por isso são considerados instáveis.
deb ftp://ftp.debian.org/debian/ unstable main contrib non-free
deb http://ftp.br.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.de.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.uk.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp2.de.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.cl.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.fr.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.it.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.is.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.es.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.hu.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.us.debian.org/debian unstable main contrib non-free

# Unstable/non-US
# Os repositorios abaixo contém pacotes do instáveis, que não podem ser distribuídos nos EUA devido às leis ditadas naquele país. Se voce não mora nos EUA pode usa-los livremente.
#deb http://ftp.br.debian.org/debian-non-US unstable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.de.debian.org/debian-non-US unstable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp2.de.debian.org/debian-non-US unstable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.cl.debian.org/debian-non-US unstable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.fr.debian.org/debian-non-US unstable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.it.debian.org/debian-non-US unstable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.is.debian.org/debian-non-US unstable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.es.debian.org/debian-non-US unstable/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.hu.debian.org/debian-non-US unstable/non-US main contrib non-free

# Repositorios Debian Testing
# Os repositorios abaixo contém endereços dos repositorios do debian que estão em fase de teste, por isso então não devem ser utilizados em servidores:

deb ftp://ftp.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
deb http://ftp.br.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.de.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.uk.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.cl.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.fr.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.it.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.is.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.es.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.hu.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.us.debian.org/debian testing main contrib non-free
#deb ftp://ftp.debian.com/debian/ testing contrib main non-free

# Testing/non-US
# Os mirros abaixo contém pacotes do Testing que não podem ser distribuídos nos EUA devido às leis ditadas naquele país. Se voce não mora nos EUA pode usa-los livremente.

#deb http://ftp.br.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.de.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.uk.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.cl.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.fr.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.it.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.is.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.es.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.hu.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free
#deb http://ftp.es.debian.org/debian-non-US testing/non-US main contrib non-free

## Atualizações de Segurança para Debian
# Stable
deb http://security.debian.org/ stable/updates main contrib non-free
deb ftp://security.debian.org/debian-security stable/updates main contrib non-free
# Debian Sarge
deb http://security.debian.org/ sarge/updates main
deb ftp://security.debian.org/debian-security sarge/updates main contrib non-free
# Testing
deb http://security.debian.org/ testing/updates main contrib non-free

## Repositorio pacotes da Suite escritorio Openoffice
deb http://ftp.freenet.de/pub/debian-openoffice/ woody main contrib

# Repositório do Mplayer
# Os endereços abaixo contém pacotes do PLF para o Debian. A lista inclui o Mplayer, o DVDrip e outros softwares instaláveis, que não podem ser distribuídos nos EUA. Se você não mora nos EUA você é livre para usá-los.

#deb http://linusp.usp.br/debian-marillat/ testing main
#deb http://linusp.usp.br/debian-marillat/ unstable main

#deb ftp://ftp.nerim.net/debian-marillat/ testing main
#deb ftp://ftp.nerim.net/debian-marillat/ unstable main

#deb http://www.las.ic.unicamp.br/pub/debian.d/debian-m… testing main
#deb http://www.las.ic.unicamp.br/pub/debian.d/debian-m… unstable main

## Repositorio Oficial do Wine para Debian
deb http://wine.sourceforge.net/apt/ binary/
deb-src http://wine.sourceforge.net/apt/ source/
deb http://wine.sourceforge.net/apt/testing ./
deb http://wine.sourceforge.net/apt/unstable ./

# Kalyxo
# Este endereço contém pacotes de instalação de vários novos programas, que ainda
# não estão disponíveis nos repositórios Debian, como o knemo e o freeNX-server.
# O freeNX-server é o sucessor do VNC. http://www.knoppix.net/forum/viewtopic.php?t=12900
#deb http://archive.kalyxo.org/kalyxo/ staging main
#deb http://archive.kalyxo.org/kalyxo/ experimental main

# Bootsplash
deb http://www.bootsplash.de/files/debian unstable main

# Rarewares
# O Rarewares contém vários pacotes raros, principalmente relacinados a formatos de áudio
#deb http://pessoal.onda.com.br/rjamorim/debian/ ./
#deb http://www.rarewares.org/debian/packages/unstable ./

# Driver para placas SiS
# deb http://www.winischhofer.net/sis/debian/unstable ./

## Repositorio Debian do gerenciador de janelas XFCE4
deb http://www.os-works.com/debian testing main
deb-src http://www.os-works.com/debian testing main

## Repositorio Yast para Debian
deb http://yast4debian.alioth.debian.org/ pool/
deb-src http://yast4debian.alioth.debian.org/ pool/

## Repositorios de Libraries

## Atualizaçao de Libraries
deb http://libranetlinux.com updates/2.8/

## Libraries de Segurança
deb http://libranetlinux.com security/2.8/

## Unofficial (Trusted) Additional Sources

## Repositorio JAVA
deb http://z42.de debian/

## Official VLC for SID (and libdvdcss)
deb http://download.videolan.org/pub/videolan/debian sid main

# Outros pacotes:
# Estas linhas adicionam mais alguns servidores com pacotes diversos.
# Eles não foram testados, use por sua conta e risco:

# Rox (o gerenciador de arquivos)
#deb http://www.hrw.one.pl/apt/ sid/

# Cinelerra (edição de vídeo não linear)
deb http://userpages.umbc.edu/~fu1/debian unstable main
deb http://www.kiberpipa.org/~minmax/cinelerra/builds/… ./

# Binários para o jogo Torcs ( simulação de corrida para corredores e programadores)
#deb http://telia.dl.sourceforge.net/sourceforge/torcs/ ./
#deb http://umn.dl.sourceforge.net/sourceforge/torcs/ ./

# Gift + Apollon
# deb http://hal.iwr.uni-heidelberg.de/debian/ gift/

# Você pode encontrar mais links de repositórios com pacotes DEB no:
# http://www.apt-get.org

 

I Miss You

Though you are not here
wherever I go or whatever I do
I see your face in my mind
and I miss you so
I miss telling you everything
I miss showing you things
I miss our eyes
secretly giving each other confidence
I miss your touch
I miss our excitement together
I miss everything we share
I don’t like missing you
It is a very cold
and lonely feeling
I wish that I could be
with you right now
where the warmth of our love
would melt the winter snows
But since I can’t be
with you right now
I will have to be content
just dreaming about
when we’ll be together again

 

instalasi Qmail

Sekarang saya akan mencoba membuat tutorial instalasi Qmail pada server berbasis
Debian, tapi saat ini saya akan menginstal menggunakan Ubuntu Server 6.06.

Saya rasa anda bisa menggunakan panduan pada situs vlsm.org untuk instalasi Ubuntu atau Debian ini. Sedangkan saya akan menginstalasi tanpa dari awal (Saya menginstall Ubuntu hanya System-based saja).

#mkdir /downloads
#download qmailrocks.tar.gz di situs
#tar xzpf qmailrocks.tar.gz
#apt-get install cpp lynx patch make autoconf
#apt-get install libcurl3 ca-certificates libcurl3-dev libcurl3-openssl-dev libssl0.9.8 libssl-dev libssl0.9.8-dbg openssl autoconf automake1.9 autotools-dev g++-3.4 gcc-4.0 gcc-4.0-base libgcc1 lib64gcc1 gcc

#apt-get install heimdal-dev libasn1-6-heimdal libgssapi4-heimdal libhdb7-heimdal
#/downloads/qmailrocks/scripts/install/qmr_install_linux-s1.script
#/downloads/qmailrocks/scripts/util/qmail_big_patches.script
#cd /usr/src/qmail/qmail-1.03
#make man && make setup check

#./config-fast mx3.jalawave.net.id (sesuaikan dengan domain anda)

#make cert

#chown -R vpopmail:qmail /var/qmail/control/clientcert.pem /var/qmail/control/servercert.pem

#patch < /downloads/qmailrocks/patches/ucspi-tcp-0.88.errno.patch

#make && make setup check
#cd /package/admin/daemontools-0.76/src
#patch < /downloads/qmailrocks/patches/daemontools-0.76.errno.patch
#cd ..
#cd /downloads/qmailrocks/
#tar zxvf ezmlm-0.53-idx-0.41.tar.gz
#cd ezmlm-0.53-idx-0.41
#apt-get install gettext
#make && make setup

Ok sudah selesai install Qmail, ezmlm (untuk mailinglist) sekarang lanjut ke Autorespond

#tar xzpf autorespond-2.0.5.tar.gz
#cd autorespond-2.0.5
#make && make install
#tar zxvf vpopmail-5.4.13.tar.gz
#cd vpopmail-5.4.13
#./configure –enable-logging=p –disable-clear-passwd
# make && make install-strip

#cd /downloads/qmailrocks
#tar zxvf vqadmin-2.3.6.tar.gz
#cd vqadmin-2.3.6
#./configure –enable-cgibindir=/usr/lib/cgi-bin/ –enable-htmldir=/var/www/
#make && make install-strip

Masukkan script ini di configurasi apache anda :

deny from all
Options ExecCGI
AllowOverride AuthConfig
Order deny,allow

#cd /usr/lib/cgi-bin/vqadmin
#vi .htaccess

isi nya
AuthType Basic
AuthUserFile /etc/apache2/.htpasswd
AuthName vQadmin
require valid-user
satisfy any

Rubah hak aksesnya
#chown www-data .htaccess
#chmod 644 .htaccess
#htpasswd -bc /etc/apache2/.htpasswd admin password_anda

# chmod 644 /etc/apache2/.htpasswd

Lalu restart lah Apache2 anda, jika masih error dalam hal ini silakan dicheck pada directory linux2.arinet.org mengenai .htaccess

harusnya pada saat anda membuka url http://xxx.xxx.xxx.xxx/cgi-bin/vqadmin/vqadmin.cgi akan meminta password untuk login.

#cd /downloads/qmailrocks/
#tar jxvf maildrop-2.0.0.tar.bz2
#cd maildrop-2.0.0
#apt-get install libgdome2-cpp-smart-dev libgdome2-cpp-smart0c2a libpcrecpp0 g++ g++-3.3 libpcre3 libpcre3-dev libpcrecpp0 xinetd libgdbm3 libgdbm-dev
#./configure –prefix=/usr/local –exec-prefix=/usr/local –enable-maildrop-uid=root –enable-maildrop-gid=vchkpw –enable-maildirquota
#make && make install-strip && make install-man

Saat nya install Qmailadmin

#cd /downloads/qmailrocks
#tar zxvf qmailadmin-1.2.10.tar.gz
#cd qmailadmin-1.2.10
# ./configure –enable-cgibindir=/usr/lib/cgi-bin/ –enable-htmldir=/var/www/ –enable-modify-quota –enable-domain-autofill
#make && make install-strip

Coba arahkan ke http://xxx.xx.xx.xx/cgi-bin/qmailadmin dah jalan apa belum ???

#/downloads/qmailrocks/scripts/finalize/linux/finalize_linux.script
#nano /var/qmail/supervise/qmail-pop3d/run

Rubah domain mail anda ke yang pada saat dibuat tadi misal mx.example.com begitu juga file dibawah ini

#nano /var/qmail/supervise/qmail-smtpd/run

#qmailctl stop
#echo ‘127.:allow,RELAYCLIENT=””‘ >> /etc/tcp.smtp
#qmailctl cdb

# echo support@example.com > /var/qmail/alias/.qmail-root
# echo support@example.com > /var/qmail/alias/.qmail-postmaster
# echo support@example.com > /var/qmail/alias/.qmail-anonymous
# echo support@example.com > /var/qmail/alias/.qmail-mailer-daemon

#rm -f /usr/lib/sendmail
#rm -f /usr/sbin/sendmail
#ln -s /var/qmail/bin/sendmail /usr/lib/sendmail
#ln -s /var/qmail/bin/sendmail /usr/sbin/sendmail
#/downloads/qmailrocks/scripts/util/qmr_inst_check

Beres instalasi Qmail, vpopmail,qmailadmin, maildrop dan ezmlm. Selanjutnya instalasi Courier-imap, saya tidak akan menggunakan apt-get
tetapi instalasi sesuai dengan Settingan pada Distro RH atau FC

#cd /downloads/qmailrocks/
#tar jxvf courier-authlib-0.58.tar.bz2
#cd courier-authlib-0.58
#./configure –prefix=/usr/local –exec-prefix=/usr/local –with-authvchkpw –without-authldap –without-authmysql –disable-root-check –with-ssl –with-authchangepwdir=/usr/local/libexec/authlib
#make && make check
#make install-strip && make install-configure

# nano /etc/init.d/authdaemond.sh
Isinya adalah

#!/bin/sh

/usr/local/sbin/authdaemond start

#chmod +x /etc/init.d/authdaemond.sh

Lalu masukkan dalam script agar pada saat reboot bisa langsung Up

# update-rc.d authdaemond.sh start 85 2 3 4 5 .
#tar jxvf courier-imap-4.0.2.tar.bz2
#chown -R iyus:root courier-imap-4.0.2
#cd courier-imap-4.0.2
#su username biasa misal su iyus
#./configure –prefix=/usr/local –exec-prefix=/usr/local –with-authvchkpw –without-authldap –without-authmysql –disable-root-check –with-ssl –with-authchangepwdir=/usr/local/libexec/authlib

#make && make check
#exit (kembali ke previleges root)
#make install-strip && make install-configure
#/usr/local/sbin/mkimapdcert
#nano /usr/local/etc/imapd.cnf
#nano /usr/local/etc/imapd

Rubah Address=0 jadi Address=127.0.0.1 dan juga IMAPDSTART menjadi YES,

#nano /usr/local/etc/imapd-ssl

Rubah Address=0 jadi Address=127.0.0.1 dan juga IMAPDSSLSTART menjadi YES.

# nano /usr/local/etc/authlib/authdaemonrc
Cari settingan berikut :

authmodulelist=”authvchkpw”

#cp /usr/local/libexec/imapd.rc /etc/init.d/imap
#cp /usr/local/libexec/imapd-ssl.rc /etc/init.d/imaps

Lalu lakukan update-rc biar bisa up sewaktu reboot

#update-rc.d imap start 85 2 3 4 5 .
#update-rc.d imaps start 85 2 3 4 5 .

Abis itu coba telnet kelocalhost untuk ngechek IMAP

#telnet localhost 143

telnet localhost 143
Trying 127.0.0.1…
Connected to localhost.
Escape character is ‘^]’.
* OK [CAPABILITY IMAP4rev1 UIDPLUS CHILDREN NAMESPACE THREAD=ORDEREDSUBJECT THREAD=REFERENCES SORT QUOTA IDLE ACL ACL2=UNION STARTTLS] Courier-IMAP ready. Copyright 1998-2005 Double Precision, Inc. See COPYING for distribution information.
a logout
* BYE Courier-IMAP server shutting down
a OK LOGOUT completed
Connection closed by foreign host.

#

#cd /downloads/qmailrocks
#tar xzpf courierpassd-1.1.2.tar.gz
#./configure
#make && make install

karena tadi pertama kita menginstall xinetd maka konfigurasi sama dengan instalasi di FC atau di RH. Courierpassd ini berfungsi untuk mengganti password IMAP melalui webbased.
#cd /etc/xinetd.d
#nano courierpassd
Isi dari courierpassd

———————-
service courierpassd
{
port = 106
socket_type = stream
protocol = tcp
user = root
server = /usr/local/sbin/courierpassd
server_args = -s imap
wait = no
only_from = 127.0.0.1
instances = 4
disable = no
}
———————–

# nano /etc/services

Masukkan script berikut ini (simpan aja paling bawah ….)

courierpassd 106/tcp #for /etc/xinetd.d/courierpassd

#/etc/init.d/xinetd restart

lalu lakukan telnet ke port 106, jika keluar maka sudah selesai deh install courierpassd

#telnet localhost 106

# telnet localhost 106
Trying 127.0.0.1…
Connected to localhost.
Escape character is ‘^]’.
200 courierpassd v1.1.2 hello, who are you?

#libappconfig-perl libarchive-tar-perl libarchive-zip-perl libauthen-sasl-perl libbit-vector-perl libcarp-clan-perl libcompress-zlib-perl libcrypt-blowfish-perl libdbd-mysql-perl libdate-manip-perl libdigest-hmac-perl libdbi-perl libdevel-symdump-perl libdigest-sha1-perl libfont-ttf-perl libgd-text-perl libgdbm3 libglib-perl libhtml-parser-perl libhtml-tagset-perl libhtml-template-perl libio-socket-ssl-perl libio-zlib-perl libmime-perl libmailtools-perl libmodule-build-perl libnet-daemon-perl libnet-dns-perl libnet-domain-tld-perl perl perl-base perl-modules perl-suid
Selanjutnya instalasi squirrelmail, silakan merujuk pada Situs nya

http://www.squirrelmail.org

 

WAKTU

WAKTU
Dan jika engkau bertanya, bagaimanakah tentang Waktu?….
Kau ingin mengukur waktu yang tanpa ukuran dan tak terukur.
Engkau akan menyesuaikan tingkah lakumu dan bahkan mengarahkan perjalanan jiwamu menurut jam dan musim.
Suatu ketika kau ingin membuat sebatang sungai, diatas bantarannya kau akan duduk dan menyaksikan alirannya.
Namun keabadian di dalam dirimu adalah kesadaran akan kehidupan nan abadi,
Dan mengetahui bahwa kemarin hanyalah kenangan hari ini dan esok hari adalah harapan.

Dan bahwa yang bernyanyi dan merenung dari dalam jiwa, senantiasa menghuni ruang semesta yang menaburkan bintang di angkasa.
Setiap di antara kalian yang tidak merasa bahwa daya mencintainya tiada batasnya?
Dan siapa pula yang tidak merasa bahwa cinta sejati, walau tiada batas, tercakup di dalam inti dirinya, dan tiada bergerak dari pikiran cinta ke pikiran cinta, pun bukan dari tindakan kasih ke tindakan kasih yang lain?
Dan bukanlah sang waktu sebagaimana cinta, tiada terbagi dan tiada kenal ruang?Tapi jika di dalam pikiranmu haru mengukur waktu ke dalam musim, biarkanlah tiap musim merangkum semua musim yang lain,Dan biarkanlah hari ini memeluk masa silam dengan kenangan dan masa depan dengan kerinduan.

 

10 Tips Menemukan dan Memelihara Hubungan Asmara

1. Jangan jatuh cinta dengan seseorang yang sangat berpotensi. Terlalu banyak pria dan wanita yang memilih teman atau tinggal dalam hubungan dengan harapan bahwa orang lain akan berubah.
Jujurlah dan jadilah diri sendiri dan bertanya: “Dapatkah saya mencintai orang ini dengan cara yang sebenarnya dimana mereka sekarang tanpa harapan untuk berubah?” jika tidak, carilah yang lain.
2. Jangan memusingkan nafsu birahi. Dalam perasaan yang terburu-buru, orang melakukan hubungan seksual akan menciptakan suatu keintiman yang salah, yang akan menuju kekecewaan.
Sisihkan waktu untuk menciptakan hubungan emosional yang asli dan membiarkan hubungan seksual yang penuh gairah tumbuh.
3. Jangan mengabaikan keputusasaan untuk memiliki suatu hubungan. Misalnya, jika dia membuat suatu pernyataan seperti “Saya tidak melaksanakan komitmen dengan benar,” Percayailah dia.
Tanya pada diri sendiri, “Apakah orang ini bersedia secara emosional dan situsioanal?” (Orang cenderung untuk menghabiskan waktu untuk hobinya kemudian baru pasangannya).
4. Jangan mengasumsikan teman Anda secara “fisik” mengetahui apa yang Anda inginkan dan butuhkan.
Bertanggung jawab untuk mengungkapkan perasaan Anda dan saling membutuhkan satu sama lain. Ini akan menghindari konflik dan hubungan emosional yang dalam diantara Anda.
5. Terima pasangan Anda apa adanya. Ketika pasangan memasuki tahap bulan madu, mereka sering merasa puas satu sama lain.
Teruskan untuk melakukan hal romantis satu sama lain dalam setiap hubungan, tidak hanya di tahap awal. Misalnya, buatlah “date night ” sekali seminggu.
6. Bersikaplah empatik terhadap pasangan Anda. Sisihkan beberapa saat rencana Anda dan perhatikan pasangan Anda untuk memahami pemikirannya. Memahami dan mensyahkan perasaan pasangan Anda tidak berarti Anda harus setuju dengan mereka. Jika tidak hal ini berarti Anda harus menyerahkan pada kebutuhan Anda sendiri. Sering kali, perasaan memahami akan berarti lebih untuk pasangan Anda dibanding menjadi benar atau memenangkan pertarungan.
7. Fokuskan pada apa yang Anda sukai dari pasangan Anda dan apa yang telah mereka lakukan dengan benar- alih-alih tentang kesalahan mereka.
8. Kekasih Anda kembali. Orang yang mencintai Anda kembali. Anda tidak akan terlibat dengan seseorang yang akan mencintai Anda.
9. Anda tidak merasa Anda berjalan diatas kulit telur. Jika Anda memiliki perasaan yang kuat dalam perut Anda, itu bukan cinta, melainkan Anda mencoba untuk mendapatkan persetujuan.
10. Hubungan yang sehat akan meningkatkan penghargaan diri.
Untuk mendapatkan hubungan yang harmonis, setiap pasangan perlu untuk mengekspos diri mereka sendiri. Hubungan yang sehat terjadi ketika kedua pasangan merasakan aman untuk menyatakan diri mereka sebenarnya terhadap masing-masing.